Contentment can feel weird at first and yet it’s an essential ingredient for healing. It’s been something we all quest for and yet we “think” ourselves out of contentment. Our nervous systems just aren’t used to it.
Contentment is a state of being where nothing is desired and the richness of the moment and all that’s in it comes totally present and we have the big ahhhhhhhh moment.
Healing happens out of a place of contentment.
Recently, we both experienced a huge sense of total contentment recurringly on the beach in Mexico. When David first noticed it, he laughed because he could feel his nervous system freaking out in the midst of the deliciousness.
Learning to experience contentment is something we have to be willing to learn how to be. There is no doing. It REALLY is a state of being.
You might imagine that a state of contentment is something natural, just a breath away. What we’ve discovered from clients and ourselves is that we have developed the habit of “over seeking” and we never actually receive what we’ve been looking for. We keep reaching rather than receiving.
Seeking is a good thing right?
Wanting to improve ourselves is a good thing right?
Wanting to grow past our old limitations is an important aspect of our life’s work.
Becoming more generous and loving is a good thing.
And yet there is a dark side to this list of positive objectives. Our desire to improve, to heal, to advance our consciousness can become an addiction that stops us from recognizing and being present to the gloriously rich presence of contentment just waiting for us to notice it.
David’s contentment revelation was stimulated by the overwhelming realization that the people he was with, the place he was in, the air he was breathing fulfilled every hunger he had. He’d sat in the same location before, even with the same people but on that day he suddenly recognized and received the vast delicious feeling of contentment that was just waiting to be acknowledged.
Nothing was different in the exterior environment; everything became different in his interior environment by admitting, letting in, the pregnant contentment waiting to birth itself inside him.
This is not an experience unique to him, it’s waiting there for each of us right now. We all have contentment in the bank of life waiting for us to use it. It’s a majestically valuable currency that can never be devalued. Just imagine, you have piles of contentment bullion just waiting for you to say yes.
What’s the risk?
Our nervous systems that are so accustomed to being discontent would begin to learn to feel safe in the contentment that is really the essence, the foundation of the soul we really are. We give up seeking and receive.
How do we grow contentment?
- With the first sip of your favorite morning beverage, just let yourself notice that your first sip satisfies everything. Sure you may want some more but just keep noticing the deliciousness and your contentment capacity will begin to expand.
- How about allowing just 10 seconds of contentment today. If you do, your awareness, how you notice yourself, will become so attracted to the deliciousness of the experience that the next day you’ll create 15 seconds, then 30, then a minute.
- Start noticing how many times a day are you content like in the warmth of the shower in the morning,
Remember, the weirdness of contentment begins to go away as we allow it simply to happen and notice it.
And as we increase our contentment, there is room for the miraculous. When we take contentment out of the weird zone and make it a lifestyle rather than a quest, our capacity to heal expands. It’s delicious.
Please share your moments of contentment or your thoughts below.