Over Giver’s Anonymous
Not long ago, we formed a group called Over-Giver’s Anonymous with some of our clients. Anyone else relate?
We’ve been learning to give from our overflow not our core battery of life. This hasn’t always been easy for two fundamental caregivers. The following blog came with the help of our allies.
You are Not a Slave
Have you noticed lately that there seem to be a lot of demands for your attention? Not just the normal needs that can seem like a demand from our beloveds, but in other areas of your life as well.
Learning to notice and analyze the nature of a demand for our attention is how you stay free and in charge of how you spend your life force. This requires that you put your automatic behavior in slow motion mode. It is how you can stop over-giving.
The overuse of your kindness circuit that can get addicted to over-giving can sometimes lead to a loss of freedom and the feeling that you are “enslaved” to a job, a person, or a place.
Learning to feel and exercise freedom at this time in the world is the primary ingredient to being a contributor of love, possibility and healing for the planet.
The following is an invocation or prayer to help you claim in ever-greater ways your birthright as a free ultimately creative living being.
Oh Beloveds of Life,
Be reminded you were created in a spark of life that is boundless.
Be reminded that you are of life itself.
Be reminded your nature is freedom.
We hold you close and breathe into you a fresh breath of freedom
so that you may each step forth in freedom and empowerment
no matter where you are or what you are doing.
Sometimes a kindly act from you can produce a weakness in those you love.
Reminding someone that they have freedom and strength within them
and that they can stand up empowered
is more important than fixing the problem they have created.
We each must learn how to be in constructive community together helping each other to arise in strength combined with loving action to end the legacy of slavery.
If you are depleted and continue to give to those you love, your body will suffer.
Learning to not over-give is the foundation of a sustainable life.
Consider this, are you supporting a weakness
or calling up the strength, integrity and independence in another?
When we all arise in the vast love and freedom of our hearts
there is an unmistakable joy that fills the air because we are living out of our birthright
as sons and daughters of life itself.
There is a broadcast coming to you from the very heart of life
that is designed to produce a remembrance within you
that you are a free being and can act from that freedom at all times.
The tiniest gesture of an act from liberated freedom
can produce a cascade of joyful action and noticeable love.
Let us know if you want to join our group Over-Giver’s Anonymous. It’s a commitment to growing the skills to give from our abundance not from when we are depleted. We’re even forming a special online coaching group. If you are interested Click Here.
And if you’d like to comment we’d love to hear from you below.
Thanks for journeying with us.
Love,
Yup! I am not enslaved anymore. No “shoulds” or loneliness can entice me to share energy I do not have and to unkind and ungrateful energy received back. I am loving myself more and in a balanced way, moving, deciding at MY speed and when I am ready to. I can feel where my limit is energetically, and I now stop, instead of rationalizing and pushing my way through.
What used to get to my energy was feeling sorry for someone; thereby imprisoning myself with them. It would become cyclical. There would be an expectation of more help/energy needed and I would feel obligated out of guilt. NOT a pretty story. Oh, and the treatment I would get from these people! Not very kind for sure.
So, YES to loving and caring for me first! Then, “yes, you can be first after me.”
Thank you Mignon. It’s great to see you demonstrating such strength and clarity of action. You’re inspiring.
This came to my inbox with precise timing for me, thanks to all for these words of wisdom. It’s good to know that we are allied with greater movements and my thinking is aligned so well with this.