Relief From Lying

Lies make us ill, whether we’re lying to one another or ourselves.

Lying separates us from our own truth and is just plain hard on our bodies.  It takes energy to lie, energy that could be available for life affirming actions.

When we lie, we create blockages in our physical body, resistance in our emotional field and separation from our spirit selves. The suffering we have carried because of lying has been great.

What is lying?

Lying isn’t just when we say something and we know it not to be true.

Lying is when something is true for us and we tell ourselves what we know isn’t so.

Lying is accepting someone else’s judgment as gospel or following cultural norms of how we should live as our own view when we don’t agree; marriage looks like this, a good family looks like this not that, success must be like “this” or anything else is a failure.

And often we don’t even know we are in a lie. We have been conditioned to think that this is just the way life is, or that we are somehow lesser because someone else has told us so. We have forgotten that possibilities are available to us because we have become so ingrained in a way of being that it’s hard to imagine anything else.

So what do we do to stop lying to ourselves and those around us?

How can we find Relief from Lying?

Acceptance– we all lie or have lied to ourselves whether consciously or unconsciously. Accepting that we all contribute to this human condition is the first step in allowing a shift to occur.

Be Curious- When you notice, even if for just an instance, that something doesn’t feel right, ask questions. Why doesn’t this feel right? Do I want to do it? Do I want to believe this way? What am I defending? There are a myriad of questions to ask and things to be questioned. Just notice and ask yourself if it is true for you and wait to see what shows up.

Choose- You now have a choice. Actually you have always had a choice, but until you become aware that you are lying to yourself or others it is hard to choose something else.

Be Kind as you begin to uncover all the ways you have lied. It is easy to make yourself feel badly especially when you were lying unconsciously. Nothing good comes from beating ourselves up. Admitting that we just didn’t really know or else we would have changed our way of thinking and being is critical to anchoring the changes we want to make.

Commit It takes practice and intention to uncover lies and shift our behavior and ways of thinking.  The good news is that we will all heal by expressing our truth and begin to feel better.

Stopping lying to ourselves is one of the most loving things we can do. We can all feel better physically and emotionally and more fully express from our divine selves without the lies in the way.

And imagine…. What will our world become when we free up the energies we have been using to lie ourselves into submission to something other than the truth? What might become of our world with our unleashed energies that had been misdirected?

Join us and let’s see what we create together.

  1. DK

    Good one. Very true. It takes a lot of energy to sustain a lie or deception. The hardest part of it for me is to be true to myself, and not try to talk myself into things the way they “should” be. So I’ll make the commitment to watch for this with myself
    Thanks David and Susan.